She was sitting and telling me how she wanted a different life. She wanted to let go of the business, house, and reality that she had built. She was contemplating this from a place of authenticity. A big shift had happened in her reality, and it created the space for her to question if she even wanted the reality that she was living. She had done the things, gotten the husband and kids, purchased the home, opened the business, and made the business successful, but did she even want any of it?
If I am being honest, it is one of my favorite conversations to have with a client. The moment where they get really present with themselves and their desires. The moment when they question who they are and what they want out of this human experience.
“I built my life off other people’s blocks, Erin,” she said.
I smiled back at her, knowing that space well as I had been in a similar space many times myself.
“I need to figure out who I am before I can figure out what I want. I mean, do I even want the life that I have?” she asked, mostly speaking to herself.
“I built a life with the building blocks that other people told me were important but I don’t even know if I like these blocks. What if I don’t actually like any of this? What if I just think that I should want and like these things? What if I really want to sell it all and move to the woods in a cabin and not do any of this?”
It was one of my most favorite places to sit with someone. When we really start to question who we are, what we like, what we want, and how we want our lives to be.
How much of your life is built with building blocks that aren’t even yours?